Once upon a time there's a kid, let's call him Joe. Joe was ordered by his mother to keep eye on a family cat. One day, the cat was playing in the backyard and it jump over the fence and a truck hits it hard until it's death. Then the mother coming back from his trip and trying to find the cat all around the house but she can't find it. Then he ask Joe about this, "Joe, where's the Cat?"
"It's dead because it was hit by a truck" Joe said.
The mother was crying because the Cat was lived with her since a long time. The father then approach Joe and said, "Joe, next time you have a bad new, don't tell it directly like that. You make your mother cry. Tell the story first, for example, tell your mother that the Cat was playing in the roof, having fun and then suddenly there's a strong wind and the cat was slipped and fall over the fences then a truck hits it..."
"Oh, okay Father" Joe said.
Few weeks later, the Mother and the Father has to make a trip outside of town. The Grandmother was asked to take care of Joe at home. A few days later, the Mother call Joe just to check on his condition.
"Joe, how are you?" said the Mother.
"I'm fine Mother..." Joe said.
"How about your Grandma?" said the Mother.
Joe suddenly remember what his Father said before, "Umm... Mother, about that.... Grandma was playing in the roof, having fun...."
Wow, it is a very long introduction, no wonder my Lecturer write that as one of the reason he gave me a B minus for my Essay... T.T
But I do still think that introduction hold a very important part to entice the reader to read further of my writings.
So, anyone get the meaning of the story??
Well, it should've been a funny story, just a joke...
In life there's always something that called TRUTH and I don't know why it always associated with HURT, PAIN, BITTER, DISCOMFORT and some other negative words. Then again, when I think about it, Sometimes truth does give you an uneasiness feeling. So some people tend to coating it with some sugar to make it sweeter.
What good does it do?
Does it really make it sweeter?
It's still the truth and still hurts in the end. So why don't we just cut the crap and get to the main point, THE TRUTH itself. And then they call it the HARD TRUTH.
The problem with covering the truth with sweet and nice things are that the sweet cover is sometimes (or more often, and maybe always) a lie. Yeah, you may call it white lies or anything but it still lies. See, some people even make a sweet cover for LIE.
TRUTH leads you to TRUST, LIE will lead you to DISTRUST and sometimes betrayal. It's fully in your hand, whether you want to live the rest of your life on the base of TRUTH or LIE. Wise people once said about the down effect of lies is that, "When you once said lies and don't come clean about it you will tend to cover that lie with another lies and suddenly you'll realize that all your life was all a lie..."
Wow, that's heavy...!
But then another issue about TRUTH is that, sometimes some people are not ready to hear it. So some people might actually prefer the sweet cover version rather than the hard TRUTH itself.
Let say it like this, you have a friend with a stink body odor. How are you going to break the TRUTH to him?
or You see someone you don't know walk out of a toilet and forget to zip-up his zipper. Will you tell him about that?
or perhaps, When you speak with your friend and you realize that he has a bad breath. Are you going to tell him about it?
TRUTH sometimes will make you discomfort and feel uneasy. But so many times, we prefer to stay silent and let the bad odor, bad breath or unzipped pants just passing by in the name of friendship and take them as who they are.
For me personally, that's not your true friends. I want someone who can tell the truth of how I am, rather than cover it with sweet things. Do you know that sometimes people just simply don't realize their flaw because he himself doesn't realize it and he actually need other people to say that for him and tell him about that so he knows and do something about that.
Let say, if you sense that my body odor is stink and you do nothing about it because you don't want to hurt my heart. Then I walk on by without realizing it, and then I met other people too without realizing my body odor. People will feel discomfort to be around me and I would be embarrassed further.
Can you see the back of your back?
Yes, with mirror.
That's what a True Friend should do, be a very good mirror to his/her friends.
"TRUTH is like a pill..." they said. So as long as those pills were directed to the right illness, no matter how bitter it is, people will still take it because they know that they need it no matter what. So does the TRUTH, if we can deliver the TRUTH that will be able to build our friends into a better person, then they also might realize that they actually would prefer the TRUTH rather than sugar coated one.
The best way to convey the truth is not by sugar coating it, but by telling it softly and carefully with full attention toward the person we're telling the truth to. Convey it with full consideration and sincerely, so our truth might not seem as a mock, but instead a real critics to make our friends become a better person than he is today.
You are special, just not that special....!!!
That's a fact and that's the truth. Live with it and always strive to be better.
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I'm not a reader type person, because I find it so very hard for me to sit and read the whole page with only letters inside and not to mention that it usually in small font and less space. Please can someone poke me in the eye, because I'm about to fall asleep in 3...2...1.... zzzzzzz......
but wait a minute....
Aren't my blog is all in writing??
yeah... I hate to read but I make you all read my blog... hahaha...
But if I have to return to my theory about, "If you hate tomatoes, doesn't mean that everyone else hate it too..."
So I just hope that the world wasn't filled by the likes of me. I hope you find that reading is a fun activities and my blog is one of the thing that you love to read. #wink
Now, so how do I survive this whole time in my life without reading that much?
I turn all my energy to my ears and be a good listener.
Just like a wise man once said, "You have two ears and one mouth, means that you have to listen twice than you speak..."
It's not that I don't want to read and I'm not trying to read, but every time I read, I found it hard to take grasp on the content that I read. I have to read it maybe three or four times just to get a better understanding on the subject. How can I read it again and again when I can simply fell asleep on my first attempt. So rather than read, I prefer hear.
So in order too keep on learning new things, I turn my attention to Youtube. Every time I found a hardship in terms of my learning, I will try to search the topic on Youtube. Sometimes, the explanation from the Youtube and from the lecturer is in a different speed, accent and ways of telling. So it always a good thing to get some kind of second opinion or second point of view on things.
I'm able to do Salchow Jump, Tooe Loop Jump and Lutz Jump on the Ice Rink, all thanks to Youtube. Not only that, I learn a lot of things from Youtube, I just learn how to play Violin using Youtube. Youtube is a good thing to use when you're too lazy to read. You can find almost anything on Youtube.
Everything was so ideal, up until I stumble upon the world of VLog or, Video Blog.
And suddenly I was stunned by the amazing-ness of a VLog world and how those people can make a funny story even to a very scientific issue. Then I also found the Anime series such as Sailor Moon and Shurato. So I was just stunned over my laptop screen and suddenly I remembered. Why I open Youtube on the first place???
Yeah, and it's already midnight and I'm sleepy, so I just skipped the study part and go to sleep. The next day, it's all the same story all over again. And then I think to my self... Aaaargh, why am I so easily distracted???
I hate to read, but then when I try to learn via Youtube, I'm so easily distracted. Though it actually pop an idea into my mind whether I should make a VLog of my own. Yeah, that idea was stuck in my head for a several time now, but I still can't make that into reality. Laziness and lack of idea still my biggest hindrance. Even writing could be so hard, now I have to make a script then read it??
But maybe some time or some other time I'll do that. But then again, My Blog only has let say around 30 readers for each blog (well sometimes only 10) so how if I publish a VLog and only have 10-30 viewer.... Oh God, that must be so very pathetic (Simon Cowell sez), hahaha...
So let's just keep that idea in my mind until I'm ready to do that. Now,let's just stick to this blog and I will keep on trying to be a better reader rather than just a better hearer. So I can read a journal and really catch the meaning behind that. Or.... maybe I can just focus to use Youtube for learning... Naaaah, it'll be too hard, the video now is even weirder and funnier, I can't resist that.
Youtube really is a good source to study, but also full of trick and traps. Beware o' mortal being, for you can easily swayed by the temptation of Parody of Music Video.... hahaha...
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Last night I walked from Orchard area to College Green in Dunearn Road, darn it I left my iPod. Nevertheless, I learn something that night.
I always thought that life is better off alone, why? because you'll never know what other people want. That's why I still wish for a mind-reading power. So in regards of that, having friends sometimes will make you spend more. Let say, from place A to place B is actually in a walking distance, but then your friend is not a 'walker' type person. So you have to ride a bus or even a taxi for that distance.
Sometimes I do wonder, I hate economics and I'm not an economist, but why in the world I think so 'economistically', wait a minute, is that even an English word? I sometimes think that the way I'm thinking is too economic. There's always a correlation and combination of cost and benefit.
But last night, I just realized what's missing in that formula. That is the price of "COMPANIONSHIP". As an Introvert, I do sometimes found extra energy in loneliness rather than in crowdy-ness (yeah, I keep on making new words).
I walked before through the same road with a friend (should I mention your name Rin?), but last night when I walked alone, it really is feel that the distance is farther than before. But I can swear to God that the distance that I went through is the same.
This is where the element of COMPANIONSHIP kicks in. There's the role of "other people" in your life, as a companion for you. As much as you claim yourself as an introvert, there are some points when you're caught off-guard. Left your smartphone, left your iPod, left your laptop, and finally there's no more "friends" in your life to accompany you.
Time that we've been through could be the same, 24 hours. But the quality of that 24 hours will be so vastly different depends on who you're spending it with. 2 hours can last very long if you spend it with someone you don't like. But 2 hours with a friend with good companionship could feel like only 5 minutes, and suddenly time flies and you want some more.
Having someone in your life does add cost to your economic calculation. It could be in form of friends, spouse or even relatives. An introverted person or a loner is actually not a person who don't want to create a relationship with other people, they just haven't found the right person yet. Sometimes the biggest problem of an introverted person is that we're too afraid to try.
Life really is about taking risk, but sometimes risk are there to calculate and the weight of 'comfort-ness in current condition' is way to big than the risk that I should take. It really is just like the theory of how I don't like Batik. I really should never say never. The problem is not about the un-willing-ness to try, but to find a motive that suits me is not easy. I still believe that some motive in Batik shirt can make you look older.
My biggest jargon is always, "Live life to its fullest" but I do sometimes think that I hold back a lot because I'm not willing to take risks. Afraid of heart-ache, afraid of betrayal, afraid of back-stabbers, so many fear in life. Why... why can't I read minds???
The way I put everything into a logical sense is that, "I always do everything for my self" or in that matter, "I live for me". Some people do say that it's just a justification about everything I do, but I guess that's so true. That is the way I survive from all the fear I have in life so I don't feel pain when someone hurt me so bad. I never do things for someone else, everything I do is for my own purpose and goal. Even though it may seem like I did it for someone else, but believe me, I always have the reason for my self and the for other people may come as the second reason.
Wow, now I've read it all over again... I seems like a super-self-centered person. hahahaha.... it might as well the world is rotating around me and I'm the SUN.
But then again, life is a battlefield and if it's my means to survive the battle, then, so it be. Hahaha...
Human is sometimes said to be a homo homini lupus when we try to describe of how a man is actually capable of. I do believe that, but deep inside, a man not only capable of destroying another human being but they are also as capable to love and caring for another person. So It's not that I want to be alone in this life, but just like Justin Bieber said, "Never say never"
The main issue is to find the right person who can give you the right companionship in this life. We just have to keep on trying to do so till our time in this earth finally over and we'll end to the eternity silence. That will be the time when we really have to sleep alone on our own until the resurrection day.
Until that day come, let me fix this cost and benefit analysis that we all may have, especially you, Introverted fellows!!
There are cost to have friends and it's not always about money. It could also be in form of effort, tears, hard work, sadness and all the nine yards. But if you can pass that cost you have to made, you'll finally be able to see the benefit of having friends in your life, COMPANIONSHIP and believe me, it's the kind of benefit you cannot buy cheaply.
The biggest cost you only have to make is to give up your shell of defense and open your vulnerability to accept others in your life. You might hurt a bit (or more), but eventually you'll find the right person that you find worthy of all the cost you've spent.
Never say never in your life, you just haven't find the right one yet. Just keep on trying, and you'll know the difference in walking alone and walking together with a good friend.
Here to those whom I'm proud to call them my Good Friends!!
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Wow, it really has been a while since the last time I wrote a blog here. Several times I tried to wrote but then I stopped in the middle because I loose focus. Well I hope I can finish this one so I can have a good kick-start. Rather than talking about something so serious like Relation ship (which is what I'm about to write next), let's talk about Toilet Flush.
Yeah, what's up with Toilet Flush and why do I want to talk about it...?
Several years ago, I think in my Marketing Management Modules at my University, there's a thing about product evolution where the product is actually at it's peak point, but we still adding things to it that actually doesn't have value added point. Like the example a mouse trap. It used to be just some set of wire and a place for the bait. How if there's a mouse trap with motion sensor and will catch a mouse that moves. Isn't that amazing? but the basic function is still to trap a mouse, is it really worth it to evolve such a product that far and finally make the price is so expensive?
Well, let's back to the topic of Toilet Flusher. In the early time, people use water scooper to scoop water from the water basin when they want to flush the toilet. The technology was improving and the use a Toilet Flusher for every toilet now. So you don't have to scoop the water again just to flush your sh*t.
Now, have you ever seen the evolution of the toilet flusher nowadays?
We used to have one thing like a token thing to flush on the side of the water tank. Now we have a two button, one half and one for full flusher, or have you ever seen one that looks like it has eyes that blinking? one with sensor light that detects movement and know when to flush if the person forget to flush the toilet when they leave. Or the one I saw a few days ago, it's Touch Toilet Flusher. So you just have to touch some kind of sensor and the toilet will flush it self.
Now, isn't that amazing?
Is this in the category of something like the example I mentioned before, a pseudo-evolution?
Maybe I would say, "Not yet"
Well, who knows that in the years to come there will be a Voice-Command Flusher?
But the problem nowadays is that, people can think that far for the toilet flusher, but I never.... everrr.... everrrr.... found a toilet flusher that I can easily push to flush my sh*t out when I sit to expel my sh*t from my body.
Imagine this like you're the one who experience it.
You were feeling heartburn and there's something funny inside your tummy and you feel like you have to shoot something out from your anus (pardon my french) and then you finally found a toilet and you finally sit and by God you finally feel so much relieved because those sh*t finally out. Then something start to smell and you have to flush those sh*t out. But to do so, you have to turn your body about 120 degrees to find the Flush Button behind you, and you might need the power of two hands to push the button.
Aaaargh, isn't that stress full???
For God sake, the toilet has a sensor on it and to flush it manually still have to turn my body in that super awkward position just to flush my sh*t out.
Considering how far the Flusher has evolve from just a water-scooper to a sensory things like today, no one.... I mean NO ONE has ever think to make the Flusher-Button to be on the right or left side the toilet so it is easier to reach and push. Why should it always have to be on the back???
I feel so emotional when I saw those Touch-Flusher but the position is still on the back when you're in seated position. So you still have to turn your body around. This Toilet Flusher evolution may not be completed yet. But please, to whom it may concern (especially the toilet manufacturer), think this through.
I always think that the Toilet Flusher has to be activated by some pushing movements in order to make the water flow, but Now the can do that just by touching or sensing the movements. So I really am wonder, why can't they make the Toilet Flusher in easier accessible position???
Now that I think about it, could it be that I've been oh, we've been wrong all this time? May be we're wrong in our seat position all along. It could be that we should've seat facing the button so it'll easier to push or touch the Toilet Flusher.
Could this be my EUREKA MOMENT...??? a-ha....!!!!
Yeah.... I'm just talking non-sense. hahahaha....
Let's just blame the toilet manufacturer...!!!
Every time we create a product, we should use the point of view from the user of the product. So I really am wondering why does in this Evolution of the Toilet Flusher, no one ever create a user-friendly toilet. Does it really true? No one ever think about this issue?
Or is it a possibility that the creator of the Toilet Technology actually never use a toilet him/herself? so they never feel the pain to turn your body, try to push it with your right hand but it's hard so you have to push your right hand with your left hand to make it flush.
Well it's just a theory, it could be a possibility that the technology of our time still unable to reach that solution. hahaha...
So now, let's just twist our body to the back and reach the button to flush. Don't be lazy and let your sh*t evaporating it's fragrance, Summer Sh*t Number 6. Or even worse, leave your toilet without flushing it and leave a souvenir for the next user of the toilet. Oh, darn you Lazy-Flusher!!!!!!
That's why sometimes I really do prefer to use my own toilet, but that kind of utopia sometimes so far to reach, literally. When you're going out and suddenly you feel the urge, there's no other choice than you have to use the public toilet.
This Toilet-Flusher and people's laziness to flush, might have connection. I'm just to lazy to do a survey about it. So leave it just as a per-assumption of what is the correlation between Toilet Flusher and the Cleanliness of the Toilet. Well, the Evolution doesn't stop in this age, the Evolution of the Toilet Flusher will keep going on. Let's just hope that IT WILL BE IN A RIGHT PLACE.
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Do you know what really is the best system for a government? Is it Autocracy? or is it Democracy? you want to know my answer?
The best government system in the whole wide world with a 100% success guarantee (with money return guarantee) is.... (drum roll please....) IDEAL SYSTEM...!!!!!
yeah, and you're going to spend 10-15 minutes of your life to read my arguments, well it depends also on how fast you're reading speed is. It might be 30 minutes to one hour if you read like me, hahaha....
Well now you might have arguments and own opinion about this issue. Some of you might say Autocracy is the best because it will make a government more effective and efficient. The government won't take too long to pass a law because it doesn't have to consult to certain bodies and go through several readings and plenary sessions.
On the other corner might just as well scream, Noooooooooo...
(oh, now it sounds more like musical theater or something...) okay, let's try to sing the next part live and I'm recording it... Les Miserables style...!!! You're Hugh Jackman... ACTION!!!
No no no noooooooo.... Democratic is the best way because it appreciates the voices of people and it shows checks and balances between powers in government system and also an open, free and fair elections....
Now let me ask you one thing...
In this whole wide world, what's the prove that it is the best government system?
It only works splendidly when it can function IDEALLY.....!!!!
The problem is, this is THE REAL WORLD...
When we have AUTOCRACY, we have a tyrant....!
When we have DEMOCRACY, we have excessive freedom and it makes everything hard because too much opinion to heard and in the end, we are indecisive.
I think basically, Neither Autocracy or Democracy is a bad system. Both of them are good system but (with a very very large and enormous but) if it can be implemented IDEALLY. It's same like what I think about personality. There's no bad personality, just bad placement. There's no bad government system, just bad implementation.
Let's talk Democracy first, because on the Autocracy I want to make me the best Authoritarian Leader the world ever know. Democracy, BASICALLY a very splendid idea of how a government should run (not with leg, duh!). The government reach their position because they got support by majority of the people. So what the government take into action is reflecting on what people want, because he/she's the chosen one (Without having Voldemort cast a spell on you and left a thunder mark on your forehead to make you the chosen one)
BUT IN THE REALITY...
The government does chosen by the people, but the one who has the biggest distrust to the government is the people. So where's the people who put their trust to the government in the first place?
let's take my hometown as an example. There were an direct election for Mayor (if I'm not mistaken) and one candidate actually win with only 50% of the vote + around 10 vote or something. Literally 10 piece of vote paper (or around that) of all maybe 6 millions of another votes, so it's like zero point zero zero zero zero something percent. But then he's claiming that his contender is cheating and want to do re-electing once again. And guess what, the table is turned and the other couple won with more or less 10 piece of vote. Now the winner is loss and the loser in the first place now becomes the Mayor.
(well, don't completely trust my story... I just hear it from here and there. Since it's not a paper, I have no obligation to make this so f*cking scientifically)
Democratic system nowadays is more like a comedy. It's no longer, "I chose you to be my leader", but more like, "How much you're willing to pay me to vote you?"
Now let say this person is the Mayor with 50% + 10 votes supports. While to pass a law, you need 2/3 or around 66.6666666 % of the parliament (or house of representative member) to agree. So what's next???
The rest is either Negotiation, Lobbying or Bribing to pass a law...
Is this Democratic???
yes it is....
the question now is... "Is this ideal?"
"NO its f*cking NOT!!!!"
So how if the case is, the people doesn't mind with their authoritarian leader??
Is this semi-Democracy?
or is this semi-Autocracy?
Nah, let's skip that...
Now let's talk about Autocracy...
What not to like about this system?
I love it to death... hahaha.... (with note that I'm on the TOP)...
Why I think Autocracy is good... Because it can cut the hasle and the dazle of the Democratic long, painful and lobby-full process. Less cost, lest bribe and it has a possibility of less corruption.
But the problem once again, it has to be IDEAL...
what is IDEAL?
There's an Indonesian saying for portraying a hard thing to do, "Just like finding a needle in a haystack" but in terms of finding a good authoritarian is even harder, "It's like finding a hay in a needle-stack." Yeah, imagine how hard and painful is that.
So many autocratic leader in history has fall into a deep hatred among all it's citizen. Either their a bad seed to begin with or they're rotting as their time passing as the leader. Because not all people has a DIAMOND quality. If you dip a diamond to even the dirtiest mud for a very long time, you'll still see the diamond shines bright if you took the diamond out of the mud. Leaders nowadays no longer has that qualities. I think at most is only 18k Gold quality, they can hold only limited time dipped in the mud. The mud is called IN POWER. It really is INTOXICATING.
Now have you see my point?
Every government system in the world has a BUT (a really big, enormous, annoying, and smell when it farts but) when it comes into the real world for implementation. It is has to be IDEAL. Just like any Ideal thing when it comes to real world, it comes with negotiation and distortion from its original intention.
So which one is better, or any other government system will you propose to be implemented? The problem is actually not always which one is better, because every system has it's own place and time and compatibility with certain country. The problem lies in front of us right now is actually the challenge when we have chose our system, is to fulfill the terms and conditions that the system needs in order to return to its IDEAL condition so we can create an IDEALISM in this REALISM world.
Sounds hard?
No, it lies in the political will of the leaders.
If in Indonesia, If you want to be, let say, a Member of Parliament. Since the beginning of your campaign, you spent money to do campaign, you spent money here and there, you spent money to gain support. Everything is about money beforehand. So when you finally managed to reach the top, what comes first into your mind is, "How can I get my ROI (Return on Investment)?" After all the money you spent, you must be want all of them back, and of course with a (not so) little interest with it.
How can a government system is IDEAL when it begin with that kind of people???
I really do sometimes wonder, "Can I really jump into political world without have to spent any cent at all?"
Even though I have the DIAMOND quality (quote "huh?" "thought?" unquote), but with less money for campaigning I can be lost by an IRON quality people with rivers of gold behind them.
Maybe if this school have a module let say PP something-something ZERO DOLLAR CAMPAIGN, I'll definitely be taking that class for the next semester. This is the thing that should be mastered by every politician, how to campaign without spending a dime.
Wow, another IDEALISM IDEA that I offered... hahaha...
I just realized, maybe I really do live in my own IDEALISM world and try to break into this REALISM world. Have you ever seen every ending of Sailor Moon Movie? It always pictured where Sailor Moon stand in front and risking her life (and yes, sometimes she's almost naked in the process, only covered by ribbon-like thingy) with supports from another sailors team representing planets in solar system. Either trying to unleash the Moon Power or creating a protection barrier. Maybe that what I'll do...
I'll create a small group of people and call THE POWER OF IDEALISM... MAKE UP!!!! and with that power plus support of people who're willing to support me (but I'll make sure I won't be naked in the process, you can count on that!), I'll break the boundaries of REALISM world with my barrier of IDEALISM world.
Meh...
Now I'm in fully doubt of my own sanity..... hahahaha.........
Am I IDEAL....?
You decide....!!!
Well, you can say I'm IDEAL for cleaning your house, taking care of your pet, finishing your unfinished food, or maybe even IDEAL for your soul mates??? #wink
eh.... meh...?
Another Indonesian proverb, "Head may be similar in Black (hair) but IDEAL value in every head may differ to one another..."
Live up to your IDEAL and we'll create an IDEAL WORLD together....!!!!
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