Every time I watch a heroic themed movie, I always pissed off if the main actor were captured and interrogated with his beloved one under the threat. Tom Cruise in Mission Impossible 3 where he cry over the rabbit's foot, and even til the end, I don't know what the heck rabbit foot is. Then in the movie Olympus Has Fallen, The president was worried sick about the safety of his son. Heartlessly pragmatic side of me directly thinking that, is love a weakness??
Why does the hero always threat with his beloved one?
Where in Naruto, they always told us that "Being in love with somebody is always make you stronger because you want to protect them so much."
But in the reality, sometimes we're not that strong and in the end we make our beloved one falls in danger because they got involved in our line of duty.
Being a leader is a dangerous thing. One module learns me that it has several dimensions of danger where attack is included. Why? Basically because leading means that you're going to have to move a certain people from their comfort zone in order to make a better place for all, and guess what?? they won't be happy about it and they will try as hard as they could to take you down and reclaim their so-called comfort zone with you out of the picture.
It hits me so hard, I always thought that if you have a good heart and lead with honesty, you'll be safe along the way. In life, to please a lot of people is almost impossible. If you want to erase a gang from its existence in order to make peace, you can bet that the gang won't go down without a fight.
The problem in this fight is that it's no longer about you. It's about your family and your beloved ones. Well, you can take my life but please don't take the life of my beloved one. Not that I'm not appreciating my life, but there's a possibility that I put a price a bit lower on my life compare to the greater good.
If there's a question that, "If I die, the world will certainly become a better place, will you die?"
I will gladly say yes.
But I think the world doesn't work in that simple way, I wish it did.
Well, threat can come from anywhere and to everyone that we dear most. I ask myself, If I ever find someone that I care most, while I still pursuing my dream of become a leader and I can sure you that what I'm going to do is gonna make all the bad guys try to kill me, I think if I truly love someone, would I ever put that person in the line of danger with me?
I ask my self that question several times and I always think that I might not be strong enough and I might give my "cerberus" code to the bad guy and the world will be in a nuclear war. Ok, the reference that I made might not be generally understandable. hahaha...
I am strong, but If the life of a person I care the most is in danger, I might be weak and give the whole world in order to keep them save.
Should a leader spent their life in solitary, alone like a lone wolf ??
Well, It's kinda sad....
But instead of loving just one or two people, once we are a leader, we are loving and be love by the whole nation.
So, this is not a caveat or in Indonesian term, "Ngeles", If one time in the future, I run for president candidacy as a solo, single, alone. This is the reason!!!!
Unless I'm sure that I'm strong enough to protect the one I love.
Instead of loving just one person, I choose to put that aside and love all my people instead....
If one time I got captured, yes, you can kill all my minister and me, but I will put the happiness of my people before me. You will never get my "CERBERUS" code....!!!!!!
Damn!! I watch too many action movies these days.
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Well, I should be an expert on this area because a part, like 1/6, of my bachelor degree is in this area, hahaha... but don't trust me with all your heart and soul in this, because basically it's just a sharing story that might be useful or at least you can take lessons out of it.
#Disclaimer
In a dialogue with a friend, named Ririn, we talk about how much is our saving. Surprisingly, all this years I thought that I had a poor financial management, but I managed to save more than her. Though when she reads this, she'll argue about her Europe and Japan Trip... hahaha...
Well, I'm an impulsive person. I sometimes wonder why I had all the stuff I have now. I had a keyboard (not for the computer) a musical keyboard back home and I can't play a keyboard. I had a Canon EOD 650D and I don't even take shoots on a daily basis. I had a 3D television but I don't watch it on a daily basis. I had a bike but I don't ride it. I bought a Violin and said that I want to learn how to play it, but I constantly feel that I have no time. The recent one is I bought a Whey Protein Milk and since I bought it, I haven't put my foot in the gym.
That's my consumption level, it's like crazy. So to deal with that, my financial management system is using the "FORCED" basis, not the dark force. I force myself to deposit part of my incomes to my saving account, so on a cash basis, I'm poor. As an asset, yes I'm not liquid because big chuck of my money is saved in the form of similar to time deposit. I keep deposit the money on a monthly basis, but I can't easily take the money from the account at any moment I like.
and my second basis is "FORGET IT". I treat my saving as my expense. Maybe that's why I love this saving process. I don't feel like I save my money, but I feel like I spent it and suddenly out of nowhere I have this amount of money after a certain time period. Maybe this is part of the psychological thing that called, alter the way you think. Instead of being a Shopaholic, I can be a Saving-holic... hahaha....
They said that with the increasing of the income, your expense will increase as well, for me, with the increase in income, my saving will increase as well. Because to keep myself from impulsively shopping, I keep adding up more and more 'forced' saving account and then I 'forget' about it. At some point, I really do surprise myself with the thing that I managed to do.
But the thing about financial management is that you have to find one that suits you very well. Some people can just easily put aside a certain part of their income and manage not to use it without any hassle. One financial manager whom I forget her name was, once said that you had to have an emergency funds four times of your monthly income and it had to be in a liquid forms, meaning that it's not in a long-term deposit form. So once you had an emergency, you'll be able to access it easily.
The thing about saving is that it acts as a guarantee because you'll never know what the future brings. Well, at this time, my focus is in the shape of money savings, maybe if I had enough money I'll move to the savings in form of gold or stocks. but the thing about that kind of savings is that they need a big start.
So for a good start, instead of become a shopaholic, start to be a Saving-holic and make your saving system as fun as shopping. Let's think of every time you put some part of your money to savings, don't think of it's a saving as in you keep your money away, instead think of it as a shopping activity, which you love most. Think of it as you buy your future.
Force yourself then Forget it!!!!
Happy saving....
:)
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